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Cutting the Cords Ceremony
Cutting the Cords Ceremony
Source Reiki Newsletter: June 2008
Cord cutting requires a certain amount of energy and is not passive, therefore, it is best done when you are
well rested, and relaxed. While being active, (as opposed to asking God to do this for you) it is also quite
intentional, so being firm in your intent to let go is important. You don't have to enjoy letting go, you just have
to be intent on letting go, knowing that this needs to happen for the good of all. Sometimes it is not easy
letting go, and we want to hold on, but as Sting says in one of his songs, "If you Love someone set them free"
As an aside for healers, we are not here to allow others to suck off of us, and every once in a while we will
come in contact with someone who wants to do just that. One of the things that a healer does is help hold
the balance while someone is going through the process of a healing work. Part of our work as healers is to
help in this, and then as soon as possible help the person to build their own resources of healing.
That is one of the things I like about using essential oils and natural supplements. People can learn and
become their own healers. So doing cord cutting can be real important for healers, to break attachments that
our clients have formed with us. Even if the relationship continues, both healer and client need for the
relationship to evolve.
It is best to do it at a time when you can be alone and are assured of not being interrupted. Have yourself in
a prayerful meditative state and well grounded. Diffusing oils such as the blend Three Wise Men or
Frankincense, or Sacred Mountain would be good. Other essential oils would be Spruce, Cedarwood, Sage,
Lavender.
Also applying oils would be good. I have found that using essential oils can make the process easier, and
more complete. There are 3 oils that are real specific for every situation. They are Valor, (on the feet)
Release (on the feet) Acceptance on the Liver. If you don't have these, you might use Lavender on the feet,
Geranium on the feet, and Lemon on the liver. We process every emotion and particularly anger through the
Liver, and often through the emotional heart as well.
Some good oils for the heart area might be Into the Future, Hope, Joy, Rose, Lavender. Also Forgiveness is
quite good on the navel area for relationships where there is "unfinished business" which almost all
relationships have some. Melissa, Frankincense and Ravensara can be used here as well.
The energetic streams by which we are attached to others, can run throughout all of our energetic body.
Your energetic body surrounds you and even goes into the earth as well as above your head. Cutting cords
is a little like pulling weeds. Just as in pulling weeds, you have to get all the root out, this is true also with
cutting cords. Another strong aspect of cutting cords is visualization, and also breathing, taking long full
breaths, and strong exhalations, releasing as you exhale.
I have done a lot of cord cuttings myself, and have facilitated others doing it, as well as doing it in some of
the workshops I have led. It is not uncommon to feel all sorts of emotions while doing this. It is important to
not hold back on the emotions, as emotions hold and carry energy and allowing the emotions out is part of
the process.
When I have done this in workshops with others, energetically what it looks like to me is that the energy
streams are like stalks, and often the emotions look like balls of energy or almost like flowers, which are
being fed by the energy. If I tap in, in a very focused way, I can see the roots going down below the person,
as well as above the person.
Relationships that have had a lot of energy connected with them, (as opposed to relationships that are more
casual or intellectual in nature), sometimes remind me of great big sunflowers, often sort of run amok. It is
often like viewing something that is multi-screened. With energy piled upon energy. If you have ever felt
when coming in contact with someone who seems that their energy is wild, this is part of it.
People who often have a lot of emotional and energetic toxicity, their energy sometimes looks like a garden
run amok with spikes streaming out. It is possible sometimes to separate out the different energetic streams,
but often with families where there has been a lot of stress, it is amazing they will be all intertwined. It is not
necessary to see this as you are doing it, and I don't always see it myself. I only tap in if the person seems to
need help.
If you want music, that is fine, but it is best to save the music for afterwards, when you might just simply want
to relax and enjoy the feeling of peace. If playing music before helps you to get into it, that is fine, but playing
during, for some might be distracting.
You can change this according to fit your own particular spiritual beliefs. While standing, allow yourself to
become centered and grounded, feeling your connection to the earth. (The earth is a sentient being as well
as we are, and we actually live within the aura of the earth, and have a connection to the earth. This helps
us to not be spacey. )
You might want to start by calling out loud upon God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, your spiritual guides, or saints,
angels etc, to help you with this process. You can also ask to have your Higher Self as well. Allow yourself a
few minutes to feel the energies you are calling upon, to feel your lower chakras being grounded in the earth
and your top four chakras opening and receiving the sustaining assisting energies of those you have invited
and asked for help.
Archangel Michael has been particularly associated with Cord Cutting, and when you are ready Invite
Archangel Michael to assist you in the process of cord cutting. The beings you have called on will be lending
energy in this ceremony, but it is you who has to cut the cords.
No one will do this for you, the beings will help in clearing the energy from your fields, but you must start the
process. While continuing to stand hold your arms out and ask Archangel Michael if you can borrow his
sword. Allow yourself to really experience taking this sword that for time beyond time has stood and fought
darkness and cut through illusion. We may not realize it, but often we have illusions about relationships, and
our own perceptions about who we think we are and who we think the other person is.
Doing this work, will help you to cut through this, and begin to have a new outlook. Even if you are not able
to feel anything trust that this process is happening. Begin to say out loud I now cut and release the cords of
this relationship (say the name), and while you are saying this begin to move your arms as if you were
holding a sword and cut all around you. You want to cut all around your body, remembering to cut above you
and send intent, and or visualize the sword going below you to cut the roots of the relationship.
If you can visualize you might also pull up the roots and pluck them out of your field while continuing to cut
with the sword. You can see the energetic streams dissolving as cut and pull them from you. You may find as
you do this that some bundles may be more concentrated in the navel, or heart area.
Sexual relationships may be concentrated more in the lower chakras, while relationships that made your
stomach churn maybe more in the solar plexus area. Relationships that seem to mentally tax you may be
more in the top three chakras. Relationships that have been more joyful, generally are more diffused
throughout the whole energetic field, they still need to be cut to allow for new growth.
In some ways you are tending your energetic relationship garden, and things have to be cut to allow for
energy for new growth. Continue to say the name of the person whom you are cutting cords as you do this.
When you feel you are finished with that person, relationship, pause and let yourself feel it, and scan, get
your sense of whether or not you think you are done with this particular relationship, then go on to others.
It is best not to overtire yourself and only do a few relationships in one cord cutting ceremony. Start with the
ones that are most foreground for you, of the ones that seem to occupy your mind and heart the most. This
could be someone from your past. Those who have experienced abuse, who have been attacked, raped,
mugged, etc, start with that one first, even if you don't know the name, say "the person who stole my purse
and knocked me down, and give the date). For some, you may also need to say goodbye, I release and let
you go. (remember to say their name or give explanation of the relationship)
When you feel you have done enough for this session, pause and breathe for a minute or so, and ask for
the Violet Light, the Golden Light, The Highest Divine Light, the Light of God, or the Holy Spirit, (all or
whatever works for you) to move around you, through you, above and below you, filling each aspect of
yourself with the Highest Light and Love. Allow your heart to really open and feel your connection to yourself
and the Divine. In doing this ceremony you have created a void, by calling in the Divine and more of your
higher Self, you bring in what you need to go forth and have the relationships you want to have.
While you are bringing in and receiving the Highest Light and more of your Higher Self, you can begin to
allow yourself to fill up with gratitude and start thanking those who have helped you in this ceremony.
If possible, now is a good time for you to simply relax, and rest. You might even want to take a nap. You
might even want to mist your aura, with a blend like Joy, or Harmony, or even Lavender, Spruce, Sage. You
may feel hungry, or drained, or simply peaceful. Even though you have done the ceremony, the work is still
going on, as the work ripples outwards and the energy streams are dissolved as they go back to the time,
person and relationship.
You want to also clear out the area where you have done the work. You can once again ask those you have
called on to help you in this. You can also call in the streams of energy such as the violet light and the
Golden White Light. This would be a good time to also diffuse Sage, as well as Lavender, Purification.
With relationships that are ongoing, such as with children and spouses, bosses, parents, you might want to
do this a couple of times a year. You may find also with old relationships, that something new about them as
come up for you, that represents another aspect and or energy stream that you weren't aware of before that
also needs to clear out.
Generally speaking, I don't recommend doing a Cutting Cords ceremony more than once a month. We need
time to process, assimilate the work we have done. Cutting Cords is a cleansing and clearing ceremony.
Respect the work you have done, honor yourself, and the work, and allow time for yourself to have new
perspectives.
Source Reiki Newsletter: June 2008
Cord cutting requires a certain amount of energy and is not passive, therefore, it is best done when you are
well rested, and relaxed. While being active, (as opposed to asking God to do this for you) it is also quite
intentional, so being firm in your intent to let go is important. You don't have to enjoy letting go, you just have
to be intent on letting go, knowing that this needs to happen for the good of all. Sometimes it is not easy
letting go, and we want to hold on, but as Sting says in one of his songs, "If you Love someone set them free"
As an aside for healers, we are not here to allow others to suck off of us, and every once in a while we will
come in contact with someone who wants to do just that. One of the things that a healer does is help hold
the balance while someone is going through the process of a healing work. Part of our work as healers is to
help in this, and then as soon as possible help the person to build their own resources of healing.
That is one of the things I like about using essential oils and natural supplements. People can learn and
become their own healers. So doing cord cutting can be real important for healers, to break attachments that
our clients have formed with us. Even if the relationship continues, both healer and client need for the
relationship to evolve.
It is best to do it at a time when you can be alone and are assured of not being interrupted. Have yourself in
a prayerful meditative state and well grounded. Diffusing oils such as the blend Three Wise Men or
Frankincense, or Sacred Mountain would be good. Other essential oils would be Spruce, Cedarwood, Sage,
Lavender.
Also applying oils would be good. I have found that using essential oils can make the process easier, and
more complete. There are 3 oils that are real specific for every situation. They are Valor, (on the feet)
Release (on the feet) Acceptance on the Liver. If you don't have these, you might use Lavender on the feet,
Geranium on the feet, and Lemon on the liver. We process every emotion and particularly anger through the
Liver, and often through the emotional heart as well.
Some good oils for the heart area might be Into the Future, Hope, Joy, Rose, Lavender. Also Forgiveness is
quite good on the navel area for relationships where there is "unfinished business" which almost all
relationships have some. Melissa, Frankincense and Ravensara can be used here as well.
The energetic streams by which we are attached to others, can run throughout all of our energetic body.
Your energetic body surrounds you and even goes into the earth as well as above your head. Cutting cords
is a little like pulling weeds. Just as in pulling weeds, you have to get all the root out, this is true also with
cutting cords. Another strong aspect of cutting cords is visualization, and also breathing, taking long full
breaths, and strong exhalations, releasing as you exhale.
I have done a lot of cord cuttings myself, and have facilitated others doing it, as well as doing it in some of
the workshops I have led. It is not uncommon to feel all sorts of emotions while doing this. It is important to
not hold back on the emotions, as emotions hold and carry energy and allowing the emotions out is part of
the process.
When I have done this in workshops with others, energetically what it looks like to me is that the energy
streams are like stalks, and often the emotions look like balls of energy or almost like flowers, which are
being fed by the energy. If I tap in, in a very focused way, I can see the roots going down below the person,
as well as above the person.
Relationships that have had a lot of energy connected with them, (as opposed to relationships that are more
casual or intellectual in nature), sometimes remind me of great big sunflowers, often sort of run amok. It is
often like viewing something that is multi-screened. With energy piled upon energy. If you have ever felt
when coming in contact with someone who seems that their energy is wild, this is part of it.
People who often have a lot of emotional and energetic toxicity, their energy sometimes looks like a garden
run amok with spikes streaming out. It is possible sometimes to separate out the different energetic streams,
but often with families where there has been a lot of stress, it is amazing they will be all intertwined. It is not
necessary to see this as you are doing it, and I don't always see it myself. I only tap in if the person seems to
need help.
If you want music, that is fine, but it is best to save the music for afterwards, when you might just simply want
to relax and enjoy the feeling of peace. If playing music before helps you to get into it, that is fine, but playing
during, for some might be distracting.
You can change this according to fit your own particular spiritual beliefs. While standing, allow yourself to
become centered and grounded, feeling your connection to the earth. (The earth is a sentient being as well
as we are, and we actually live within the aura of the earth, and have a connection to the earth. This helps
us to not be spacey. )
You might want to start by calling out loud upon God, Jesus, the Holy Spirit, your spiritual guides, or saints,
angels etc, to help you with this process. You can also ask to have your Higher Self as well. Allow yourself a
few minutes to feel the energies you are calling upon, to feel your lower chakras being grounded in the earth
and your top four chakras opening and receiving the sustaining assisting energies of those you have invited
and asked for help.
Archangel Michael has been particularly associated with Cord Cutting, and when you are ready Invite
Archangel Michael to assist you in the process of cord cutting. The beings you have called on will be lending
energy in this ceremony, but it is you who has to cut the cords.
No one will do this for you, the beings will help in clearing the energy from your fields, but you must start the
process. While continuing to stand hold your arms out and ask Archangel Michael if you can borrow his
sword. Allow yourself to really experience taking this sword that for time beyond time has stood and fought
darkness and cut through illusion. We may not realize it, but often we have illusions about relationships, and
our own perceptions about who we think we are and who we think the other person is.
Doing this work, will help you to cut through this, and begin to have a new outlook. Even if you are not able
to feel anything trust that this process is happening. Begin to say out loud I now cut and release the cords of
this relationship (say the name), and while you are saying this begin to move your arms as if you were
holding a sword and cut all around you. You want to cut all around your body, remembering to cut above you
and send intent, and or visualize the sword going below you to cut the roots of the relationship.
If you can visualize you might also pull up the roots and pluck them out of your field while continuing to cut
with the sword. You can see the energetic streams dissolving as cut and pull them from you. You may find as
you do this that some bundles may be more concentrated in the navel, or heart area.
Sexual relationships may be concentrated more in the lower chakras, while relationships that made your
stomach churn maybe more in the solar plexus area. Relationships that seem to mentally tax you may be
more in the top three chakras. Relationships that have been more joyful, generally are more diffused
throughout the whole energetic field, they still need to be cut to allow for new growth.
In some ways you are tending your energetic relationship garden, and things have to be cut to allow for
energy for new growth. Continue to say the name of the person whom you are cutting cords as you do this.
When you feel you are finished with that person, relationship, pause and let yourself feel it, and scan, get
your sense of whether or not you think you are done with this particular relationship, then go on to others.
It is best not to overtire yourself and only do a few relationships in one cord cutting ceremony. Start with the
ones that are most foreground for you, of the ones that seem to occupy your mind and heart the most. This
could be someone from your past. Those who have experienced abuse, who have been attacked, raped,
mugged, etc, start with that one first, even if you don't know the name, say "the person who stole my purse
and knocked me down, and give the date). For some, you may also need to say goodbye, I release and let
you go. (remember to say their name or give explanation of the relationship)
When you feel you have done enough for this session, pause and breathe for a minute or so, and ask for
the Violet Light, the Golden Light, The Highest Divine Light, the Light of God, or the Holy Spirit, (all or
whatever works for you) to move around you, through you, above and below you, filling each aspect of
yourself with the Highest Light and Love. Allow your heart to really open and feel your connection to yourself
and the Divine. In doing this ceremony you have created a void, by calling in the Divine and more of your
higher Self, you bring in what you need to go forth and have the relationships you want to have.
While you are bringing in and receiving the Highest Light and more of your Higher Self, you can begin to
allow yourself to fill up with gratitude and start thanking those who have helped you in this ceremony.
If possible, now is a good time for you to simply relax, and rest. You might even want to take a nap. You
might even want to mist your aura, with a blend like Joy, or Harmony, or even Lavender, Spruce, Sage. You
may feel hungry, or drained, or simply peaceful. Even though you have done the ceremony, the work is still
going on, as the work ripples outwards and the energy streams are dissolved as they go back to the time,
person and relationship.
You want to also clear out the area where you have done the work. You can once again ask those you have
called on to help you in this. You can also call in the streams of energy such as the violet light and the
Golden White Light. This would be a good time to also diffuse Sage, as well as Lavender, Purification.
With relationships that are ongoing, such as with children and spouses, bosses, parents, you might want to
do this a couple of times a year. You may find also with old relationships, that something new about them as
come up for you, that represents another aspect and or energy stream that you weren't aware of before that
also needs to clear out.
Generally speaking, I don't recommend doing a Cutting Cords ceremony more than once a month. We need
time to process, assimilate the work we have done. Cutting Cords is a cleansing and clearing ceremony.
Respect the work you have done, honor yourself, and the work, and allow time for yourself to have new
perspectives.